Updated: Jul 8, 2021
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to resolve conflicts that create emotion. Emotional Intelligence is more than simply enduring hard emotions. Emotional Intelligence seeks to resolve difficult emotions.
The process is similar to the way a mechanic repairs a car or a physician repairs the human body; these look for “symptoms” to discover what’s out of balance; or what area is not functioning properly.
For example, if I turn the key to my truck and nothing happens I might have a dead battery. I can check the charge on the battery to determine if this is the reason my truck will not start. If nothing is wrong with the battery then I must look deeper to find the center of the problem.
The mechanics of emotion is very similar to the mechanics of a machine. In fact, emotion is nothing more than signs the machine is not functioning properly. By looking at specific emotions we can tell which part of the system needs attention.
Despite what many may think, emotions are very simple in nature. Think about it this way; if I walk down the stairs barefoot, and step on a toy, I will feel pain in the bottom of my foot. If I fall down the stairs and break my leg the pain I feel will be far more intense.
Emotion works the same way. I feel emotional pain because I have suffered emotional trauma. The greater the pain the deeper the trauma. Some emotional trauma heals on its own; some trauma takes help.
How can I tell if I need help with difficult emotions? We can start with an understanding that trauma is related to 3 primary emotions; anger, depression, and anxiety. We are not suggesting anyone who feels anger is experiencing trauma; we are saying that intense emotion, which is difficult to understand or control, is evidence of trauma.
For example, some fail to act because they feel anxious; some cannot think when they are angry; and some cannot see their own value when they feel sad. The more emotion dedicates what I do, the deeper my trauma; the deeper my trauma the more I need others to help resolve this trauma.
The process is simple despite what many think. We look at the emotion and move backward to what’s causing the emotion. When we resolve what's causing the emotion the emotion simply fades away.
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